The Responsibility that’s Really at the Heart of Your Destiny

Published April 20, 2012 | By Shelley Hawkins

The soul knows that solving problems only in the world of form is a waste of energy, that working with vibration and frequency can shortcut evolution and make transformation magical and nearly instantaneous…the soul holds the paradox that nothing needs to change and there are things that are important to do.
~ Penney Peirce

Navigating the nuances of what responsibility really means runs at the heart of your destiny, of my destiny. If you are a person who wants to evolve, to break through into new perspectives of life that elevate your joy, momentum, relationships, and meaning, inevitably you will face a new relationship to responsibility.

It’s probably not the change you expect. Even “good” perspectives of responsibility can be stifling, keeping us at arms length from each other, unwittingly paralyzed in perspectives that atrophy our creativity, will, relationships and our passion. Responsibility may tell us to “get things done,” while our soul is knocking on the door of a new direction. We wonder why “it” is not working and the soul wonders why “you” are not listening.

Like many of the paradoxes of transformation, though inherently good, responsibility can leave us suffering just as rigid and paralyzed in a situation as the most negative and limiting perspective.

A friend remarked from her own experience, “feeling responsible for someone else’s creation cuts their own divinity out of the picture.” If she could only take responsibility for her (older) son’s creation then she could make it better and keep them both from suffering, right? But the problem couldn’t be solved from there. Her realization is a poignant reminder of what it takes to navigate the balance of rugged compassion.

To unfold destiny, old structures of responsibility eventually meet with a creative destruction. Destruction that actually builds in a direction you may not have expected. A project you think you should finish; a business system you think you should be able to make work; a relationship that should be able to heal; a body that should be healthy; may all have different purpose from the soul’s perspective. To solve them requires a new relationship to yourself that takes you further into your potential, your destiny.

To consider your relationship to responsibility, ask yourself if the responsibility you are currently standing in catalyzes movement, expansion, and beauty—within yourself, others or the world around you. Does it maintain status quo or open you up? Does it respect the divinity in another person and increase your ability to relate? Is it supporting your life or stifling it? Is it focused on fixing or creating? Does it utilize chaos for evolving forward or keep you spinning?

Living life from the soul takes you out of the world of black and white, challenging your perspectives, and into the world behind what you see. It is subtle. It will streamline your life and it doesn’t mind taking you through chaos to do it.

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