It’s Even Easier than Mindset
The work I had done with other coaches were exercises in awareness, energy-esque, but at the end of the day they didn’t change the relationship. They all required effort to maintain.”
A client with a coaching business drew a metaphor for me the other day to explain her experience in our work combining deep energy transformation with intuitive coaching. In her business the self-critic reigned with determination as its master. She focused on strategy, willpower, accomplishment, and did all the work and exercises she was told to in previous situations.
She set huge goals and pushed herself to achieve them. That is, until she reached a place where she couldn’t push anymore. Her passion and desire to build her business, to create, to thrive was alive. But something in her couldn’t go any further. It scared her. She needed income, she needed creativity, she needed energy, she needed clarity, and she didn’t know how to break through.
This work is very organic, innate, she commented. I realized it wasn’t more strategy that I needed. I needed a new relationship to myself that included compassion. It was time for me to direct my accomplishments rather than feeling driven by them.
In her metaphor, she described it like this: On the surface it looked like we were working with mindset, but the outcome was completely different. It’s as if all my life I’d been turning right until I realized that turning right was keeping me from what I really wanted to create.
I used mindset and awareness to change it, to focus on turning left, because this is what I knew I needed to do to create a different outcome for my business and myself. But it took a lot of effort to maintain and set me up for more struggle.
Now turning left is effortless and that was in just one of our calls. I don’t have to “remember” to turn left. I don’t even have to think about it. It’s as if the right turn option isn’t there. This wasn’t a single belief, it was an entire pattern of how I was being and it is gone. Transformed. I feel so different. I feel peaceful, powerful, and compassionate with myself. My business is growing with so much less effort.
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