Your Needs & Wants are Vital to Your Potential
The soul of all existence is to grow and thrive.
If our definition of what we need is hanging out at neutral, or even at a basic functioning or survival level, while our creative impulse or hunger for life is to thrive, we’ll experience a constant conflict with ourselves.
If we start the question of what we need on whether it is necessary in our lives, we will come to one level of answer, that will most likely be a lateral improvement. If we start with a vision of what we want to create, experience and be in our lives, and look at need in that framework, we will come to a very different answer.
From there our needs are driven by an internal impulse toward our potential. It helps us to see the world as not so much divided between the material and unseen, but from a vibrational perspective the way our soul sees it.
Every invention required someone to want or need a different, more effective way of getting something done, and experiencing life. The discovery of new worlds, whether a next door neighbor or across oceans, required the desire for exploration, something outside what is necessary to function.
We are inherently creative. What happens when that is shut down in the name of not being necessary? Individual taste aside, we could live without the music of Bach or Bonnie Raitt, but would we want to? In their purest form, wants and needs come from an internal impulse to create, to be ourselves, to belong, and to contribute with meaning.
Our deepest needs and desires must be fulfilled to become fully ourselves. A glass half full cannot overflow into other glasses. So our relationship to and our responsibility with our needs and desires is essential to the experience of our soul potential—potential drawn from who you are and who you become.
Our needs and wants are directly related to the vastness we perceive internally and externally. By learning to relate to goodness as infinite, we learn to dwell there and create more of it. It builds self-trust with our needs and wants and that they will not lead to a fest of narcissism, but the expansion of ourselves and the good we contribute to the world through who we are and what we do.
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The Responsibility that’s Really at the Heart of Your Destiny
The soul knows that solving problems only in the world of form is a waste of energy, that working with vibration and frequency can shortcut evolution and make transformation magical and nearly instantaneous…the soul holds the paradox that nothing needs to change and there are things that are important to do.
~ Penney Peirce
Navigating the nuances of what responsibility really means runs at the heart of your destiny, of my destiny. If you are a person who wants to evolve, to break through into new perspectives of life that elevate your joy, momentum, relationships, and meaning, inevitably you will face a new relationship to responsibility.
It’s probably not the change you expect. Even “good” perspectives of responsibility can be stifling, keeping us at arms length from each other, unwittingly paralyzed in perspectives that atrophy our creativity, will, relationships and our passion. Responsibility may tell us to “get things done,” while our soul is knocking on the door of a new direction. We wonder why “it” is not working and the soul wonders why “you” are not listening.
Like many of the paradoxes of transformation, though inherently good, responsibility can leave us suffering just as rigid and paralyzed in a situation as the most negative and limiting perspective.
A friend remarked from her own experience, “feeling responsible for someone else’s creation cuts their own divinity out of the picture.” If she could only take responsibility for her (older) son’s creation then she could make it better and keep them both from suffering, right? But the problem couldn’t be solved from there. Her realization is a poignant reminder of what it takes to navigate the balance of rugged compassion.
To unfold destiny, old structures of responsibility eventually meet with a creative destruction. Destruction that actually builds in a direction you may not have expected. A project you think you should finish; a business system you think you should be able to make work; a relationship that should be able to heal; a body that should be healthy; may all have different purpose from the soul’s perspective. To solve them requires a new relationship to yourself that takes you further into your potential, your destiny.
To consider your relationship to responsibility, ask yourself if the responsibility you are currently standing in catalyzes movement, expansion, and beauty—within yourself, others or the world around you. Does it maintain status quo or open you up? Does it respect the divinity in another person and increase your ability to relate? Is it supporting your life or stifling it? Is it focused on fixing or creating? Does it utilize chaos for evolving forward or keep you spinning?
Living life from the soul takes you out of the world of black and white, challenging your perspectives, and into the world behind what you see. It is subtle. It will streamline your life and it doesn’t mind taking you through chaos to do it.
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How to Increase the Power of Your Choices
“Don’t be embarrassed to be idealistic; it’s your highest vision vibrating through you.”
~ Penney Peirce
The question on the table during a mastermind one evening was, “why do people fear change?”
The goal is to share ideas for discussion rather than come to a conclusion among a diverse group of people. Comments related to the safety and familiarity involved in not changing, no matter how painful; the fear of the unknown appearing as a greater risk than to stay in the same pattern; we warm and sensitize to new ideas as we are exposed to them; the fear of what is at stake—relationships, finances, self identity; and a large percentage of the population does not realize they have a choice to make a different choice.
Choice evolves us, moving our power in any given direction. As Carolyn Myss says, “the greatest power in the world is not love it is choice. It is through choice we choose how to love, when to love, if to love…” By choice, by a never-ending-string of choices, we have the opportunity to awaken and unfold who we are.
The internal reference points we draw from for our choices become very meaningful when we realize they determine whether our choices create real change or merely cycle us through a different version of the same ones. This is true in the macrocosm of humanity and the microcosm of your life.
From the studies of neuroplasticity of the brain to epigenetics, we are realizing just how malleable our experience is, how vast our choices are to deliberately change our experience internally and in the world at large.
Energy transformation changes your reference point. It changes what drives you and the subconscious “files” you access for any given choice. You have probably had the experience of making different choices, changing your thoughts only to have a similar outcome. Until we change the reference points from which we make our choices in any given area, change remains slow and can be more an exercise of musical chairs.
Approximately 95 percent of our actions are driven by the subconscious mind and only 5 percent by the conscious mind. When we make choices, we’re drawing primarily from our subconscious programming, often related to survival, protection, habitual, or instinctive life and how we catalogued our life experience–identities and stories we are used to living within.
Energy transformation can be very specific from simple beliefs to broad patterns. Though a simple conscious mental shift is technically a form of energy movement, deep energy transformation changes the subconscious files of experience you draw from for choices that evolve your business, your relationships, your life, and the world. Freeing up resources and effort for deliberately creating your life, as one client said, “It’s like the glasses have been taken off.”
Deliberately changing our internal reference points of choice frees us into more of who we are, a soul reference. We cannot hold a state of creating and protecting at the same time. The more we transform the no-longer-necessary protective response, the more we draw from a new well of creativity, the well of the soul.
Here we begin to see choices we didn’t know we had, options we couldn’t see before, resources that show up unexpectedly, directions that previously seemed impossible, and a way where there was none.
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